I am 34 and just found out I cannot conceive children. Now I have given up all hope of ever finding a man that would want me and stay with me forever. I would be grateful for any advice you can spare.
"Forever?" It's 2006, wake up! There are some men who don't want to have kids and there are many men who already have enough children from previous relationships that just want a lady with no baggage, so they can be her number one "baby." Sometimes having a kid together actually drives couples apart, as it is the most strenuous task two people can go through together. That is one less problem you have to worry about. So just try to see the positive side of your situation. If you radiate "woe is me," people will smell it and it's a huge turnoff to men. As seedy as it may sound, check dating Web sites for "single fathers" or "divorced fathers" ads. You may be surprised how many eager men are out there who want a woman for fun, not for reproduction.
Yo Dot, first off, you one fly sista. You dope on a rope. I swear. But I got me a situation on my hands, and I could use some advice. I'm a standup comedian at a club, and the host and I have hung out a few times. I think I could definitely shag her, but I'm worried about-ya know-shitting where I eat. She claims she is going to make a job change soon. I don't know if that's true or even when that will be, and I don't know if I can wait that long. She is smoking hot! What's a boy to do?
If you are both single, and she wants you, give it to her good. As we all know, you never know when your time is up, so do like Janis and "get it while you can."
I caught my husband cheating on me. Actually, I caught him a few times now. He swears the ladies mean nothing to him, but it makes me flip out and cry for weeks. We get along perfect in every other area of love and life, but this cannot go on. How much of this is a woman supposed to accept before she leaves? I am tired of his pathetic lies, but I love him. Help me.
No one is perfect. If you get along in every other aspect but he strays, you may want to try a different approach. Notice when you chase a dog, he only runs further away? But if you stand still and get busy, act like you are having fun and ignore the dog, it will usually come back to you and see what the hell is so entertaining. This also works with men. Rather than whining and complaining about what he is doing when he isn't with you, get busy and have fun. If he tries his petty fibs on you, casually say "don't insult my intelligence with your lies, just spare me, OK?" Make him know his games bore you. The more freaked out you get, the more exciting the other women become to him. If you are apathetic, they won't seem nearly as fun. This approach is tough, but in these modern times, practical and realistic. All that should really matter is how your partner is treating you. You can't control what they do when they aren't with you, and it will only make you crazy wondering.
I hate my labia, you know, the meat curtains. The lips are too long and one is a tad longer then the other. I won't make love in a lighted room, that's how ashamed I am. Am I the only one with this problem? I want a pretty camel toe.
Take note that men aren't really bothered much by most imperfections, they are just happy to get laid. I have asked men if they prefer tiny lips or big ones, and they usually say (in the same tone a parent uses to talk about their offspring) "I love them all just the same!" But, if this is affecting your self-esteem to the point where you feel unattractive, you could have them altered surgically. Bad side of that is you have to wait 6 weeks to try out your new and improved lips. I found a place for you that deal with that: www.libertywomenshealth.com. Have a nice trim!