My boyfriend "snaps his carrot" like, five times a day, and still wants sex with me even after all that! He's 23, so shouldn't it slow down about now? Is this normal? Aren't I enough for him? Am I dating a wanker?
Pissed-off Paula
Yes, it's normal. Be happy he's busy with himself and you. It could be worse: He could be with a few different girls a day. I know men who are in their forties and still talk about how often they have a pull. I often wonder where they find time to work (or anything else, for that matter). It seems like a full-time job to me. There's nothing you can do about it, just enjoy and be happy you don't have a stiff muscle that needs constant attention.
My girlfriend won't tell me how many lovers she's had in the past. I told her my number, but she won't even give me a ballpark figure. Is this a bad sign? She's really good-looking and amazing in bed, so I can't help but wonder. How can I get her to tell me? It's making me curious to the point where I'm debating hiring a detective.
Nattering Nate
Even if you hired her gynecologist as your detective you'll never know how many lovers she's had. Plus, if you did know, you may end up disappointed, angry, jealous and/or bored. This topic should be taboo; it's private and irrelevant! Asking such questions makes you appear insecure (and nosy!), which gives her power over you in the game of love. Don't tamper with the fine balance in a relationship if you don't have to. The past is over; just live in the now and enjoy her talent.
Why is it that when I start seeing a woman and ask her to take an AIDS test, she takes it personally and gets defensive and offended? I can't relax until a girl takes the test for me.
Cautious Carl
Seems to me that anyone who refuses to get an AIDS test to make their partner relax is hiding something, or is simply afraid of the truth. This is a major red flag. Try offering to go together, saying, "Let's do this together, so we can both relax." AIDS test or not, the only real way to stay safe is to always use condoms. If a person is such an ass about such an important thing, why bother?
Not trying to be conceited, but I am a hot, young lady. When I go out to clubs, guys always ask for my number all night long. If I say no, they get mad and call me stuck-up, a bitch or worse. Should I just say I don't have a phone? I even tell them I have a boyfriend, and they don't care.
Pretty Woman
You must feel like a star. If you don't have the balls to say, "Well, I would give you my digits, but your breath smells like a compost heap, so first drag your ass to the dentist."
Then say, "Here's my landline, but don't call after 10 p.m. or you'll wake my roommate." That way he won't try the number in front of you.
Plan ahead and save a few "fake" numbers in your cell, like the number to an office that you know is closed at night, or find the Rejection Hotline number for your area and memorize it (NYC's is 212-479-7990). Make sure you know where the nearest exit is in case he calls your bluff. n