I have been dating a girl for four weeks now and I think I love her. I have never felt like this before (I am 19 and she is 18). How long should a guy wait before he says "I love you"? And, what is the best way to say it? I'm afraid she will laugh at me or not say it back.
Anything less than six months will not be taken seriously. After a couple months you could start throwing the "L" word around, as in "I love to be with you" or " I love how you suck my dick," but to say "I love you" too quickly takes the weight out of it. If the girl says it first-yawn-the relationship is doomed, in my opinion. The longer you wait, the more it will mean to her. The best way to say it is before or after a really amazing, long, wet kiss, and definitely with a smile on your face, not a serious/nervous look. The same look you would have on your face when you would tell someone,"I just love AC/DC."
Hi, Dr. Dot. I love your column. My friends and I are "Ask Dr. Dot junkies." I have a serious question here. I've been seeing this hot bartender in my local pub. One night, I popped into his pub (he always works Friday nights) and the staff told me he left early and went to a party with "some blonde." Next day, he said he went alone. I told him I knew better; he said he just got a lift to the party with her. I just don't know how to tell if and why he would lie to me. I am all confused. I have guy friends and don't mind him having female friends; it's just the foggy truth part is killing me. What's a good way to tell if he is cheating on me?
Dating a bartender is like dating a member of heavy metal band. Fun, but dangerous-and prepare to be juggled along with a huge harem of horny holes. These guys have their pick of the crop on a nightly basis. Either live with it and take him for what he is, or just be his friend and look for another boyfriend. When you've fallen for a person, your "anti-bullshit radar" breaks down, so even if you know they are lying, you try to ignore it. By the way, popping into someone's work place is never a good idea. Surprise visits usually lead to trouble. That shit is a big no-no in my book.
What do women complain the most about when it comes to guys? I am sick of guessing.
From all the e-mails I get and from all the females I know, the top things that woman dislike about men (this week the ladies, next week, the gents):
? Looking at, or worse, talking to other chicks while out with them. Hunt when out with the guys or alone. After all, you aren't with her 24/7, are you?
? Not calling when you say you're going to. I know it is hard to grasp why this is so important, but chicks hate this. If you find it hard to keep your word, don't commit to a time, just say, "I'll call you when I can."
? Too much time at work/with the guys/watching sports events. Explain to her those things only make you appreciate her more and make you miss her, and then spoil her to prove it.
? Acting too jealous/snooping/asking too many questions. Would you want her doing that to you? No. Treat her as you want to be treated.
? Penny pinching. Even if you are poor, act generous, be it with compliments, oral sex, food, drinks or massage.
? Wishy-washy behavior. Just be up front in the beginning and say what you want, be it a fling, an open relationship or something long term.
? Bad teeth and/or breath. Drag your ass to the dentist if you must and always carry mints/gum!
Basically, they want a clean, honest, generous guy who keeps his word, makes them feel like they are the only woman, who gives them space when they need it. Toss in lots of foot rubs, foreplay and oral sex and you will be "Mr. Perfect."