Ass Maps and Pee Spots
My boyfriend told me his ex could make him come just by touching his G-spot. He says it in a way that makes me feel I am not good enough for him. Do men even have a G-spot? I have stuck my finger in his ass a few times but he didn't cum. I feel inadequate. Could you give me directions? Do I need an ass map?
First of all, telling you that his ex was somehow better at pleasing him then you are is ignorant. It sounds like he is trying to manipulate you into playing with his ass. You should pleasure him how you want to and when you want to, not to prove you are as good as his ex. If she was so good, why doesn't he go back to her? Tell him: "My ex used to make me cum by licking my pussy for 45 minutes straight." See if that works to your advantage. Moving right along, some say the female G-Spot and the male prostate are made of the similar tissue. Hence, the prostate is often called 'The Male G-Spot'. This might stretch the analogy a bit, as the female G-Spot is in-and-up behind the pubic bone and it swells as the woman gets excited. The male prostate is deeper, up near the neck of the bladder. In fact, it is the button that decides if the man is going to shoot his load or pee-men can't do both at the same time. I suggest that you suck his cock while fingering his ass with your pointer finger, as long as you have no long sharp finger nails and it is well lubricated. The combo of you sucking on him and fingering him should do the trick. Just as it would be next to impossible to make a girl cum without touching her clit (as in, just messing with her G-spot and nothing else-which, by the way, makes most girls have the feeling they have to pee) it would be next to impossible to make a guy come with just a finger in his ass and no penis stimulation. Still, next time he says, "Well, my ex could do it, why can't you?" send him back to his ass expert.
Recently I moved out of my home and left my wife. I still love her and hope we will reunited, but her nagging at me (we worked and lived together) has driven me away. I need to be adored and she was putting me down a lot when we were at work. I find myself going to hookers a few times a week, and my wife found out and freaked out. I told her they mean nothing to me, that there were no feelings involved. She doesn't get it. I want to go wild for a bit, but then come back to her. How can I make this all work? How can I have my break but keep her?
Lovelorn in Louisville
It is obvious to me why you choose hookers. Your woman made you feel small, so paying for sex makes you feel like a big powerful spender who calls the shots. I believe men can fuck hookers without it disturbing their love for another woman, but telling her there were "no feelings involved" was a serious mistake. What about her feelings? Simply tell her, "You made me feel weak and small; paying for sex made me feel strong and big again. I chose a hooker instead of a normal woman because I don't want to start another love. I love you, I just fucked them. I am sorry if I hurt your feelings, but treat me like a capable, strong man, and I won't need any confirmation from another woman." Also, working and living together will destroy most relationships. I strongly advise to change that if you can if you want to save your marriage.
I am dating a stripper and we have the best sex I have ever had in my life. She is exciting, spontaneous and dirty. The passion is addictive, like a drug that I can't be without. Problem is, I get super jealous when I see her strip (we met at her work). I used to love watching her dance; now it pisses me off. The men are pigs and disrespect her. I have gotten in a few brawls so far and I can't control my jealous rages. How can I keep her and our hot love going strong without driving her away with my jealousy?
Desperate Dan
You know, it seems to me you men are never fucking happy.
You moan about your women being boring, then they are too exciting. Steady, predictable behavior is tedious, yet wild passion makes you nervous. Make up your mind what suits you and stay with it, don't try to change anyone. You met her at a strip club, what the hell did you think would happen? She would suddenly give up her job for you? Would you give up your job for a girl?. At all cost, avoid going to her work (does she come to your job and watch you work? I think not.). Don't even mention her work. Your apathetic approach will make her interested in you even more, as I am sure 99.9% of the men she has dated all freak out, so be different. No need to explain the sudden change, just get busy and mind your own business. If you can't stand the heat, stay the hell out of the kitchen.