I started dating a younger guy: he's 26 and I'm 30. We decided to see each other occasionally for sexual activities only. I really like him because he's a very handsome man. The first time we made love, it took only two minutes for him to come. The second time, the same thing. His penis is only about 5 inches long, but he gets erect quickly with me-no problem on that side. Why does he come so quickly? This doesn't give me a chance to come, too. Please answer! PS: Is it because his penis isn't bigger, or because he doesn't like me?
Lackluster Lucy
Sounds like he comes so quickly because he doesn't care about you-just his little cock. The size of his penis has nothing to do with his stamina. Obviously he likes you a little bit, otherwise he wouldn't be dogging you. He's young and selfish. Make him lick you until you come, then let him fuck you. Get your priorities straight.
My wife and I have been together since 1989. We were having wild, hot sex almost every night. She'd always come a couple of times before I'd finally fill her up. Then, just last year, I found myself not feeling as horny around her although she still looks great and has a firm body. Seems these days I always have to be the one to make the first move, and if I don't initiate sex, then there probably wont be any. I'm getting flustered by always having to be the one to start the ball rolling. Plus, sometimes when we're having sex, it's like, ho-hum, didely-dum. But what's worse is that now my cock hardly ever gets real hard and a lot of the time it goes soft long before either of us are pleasured. The more I think about the fact that it may go soft...the faster it happens. It's become an obsession with me now. I've got Viagra from my doctor, but when I took a small dose, my cock still went soft. Any ideas on how to help me regain my stiffness would be greatly appreciated.
Big Softie
Notice how the sperm race towards the egg? They fight to be the first one to the egg. In my opinion, sex is always best when the man initiates the sex. Sure, it's hot once in a while when your lady shows you she's hot and ready, but if she were the one usually starting the romp, wouldn't you feel more feminine? How strange would it be for the egg to suddenly chase after the sperm? I doubt your problem has to do with the fact that she isn't asking for sex; I think it's more that you're getting bored and worrying that a mid-life crisis/dry spell is heading your way.
I'm against pill popping; even though I'm aware millions make a living cramming pills down people's throats. You have two separate problems, the first being your sex life has become tedious and boring. This happens to most couples, sadly. I feel that sleeping apart keeps passion alive. Sleeping next to your partner makes them so familiar it can be hard to lust after them. All the tossing and turning and smelling each other's farts can turn any hot romance into a predictable hell. Try sleeping separately once in a while. (I prefer always sleeping apart, but that's just my twisted mind.) Make sure you are having alone time with you and your best friend: your cock. Make sure you two have naughty sessions to remind you who's really in charge. As far as getting soft, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but it does come with age. You and your wife could also try a change of scenery; fucking in the same old bed time after time will make fantasy and passion difficult.
Even though it's over between me and my long-term boyfriend of seven years, I am still obsessing about him. I always imagine how it looks when he fucks another girl. I put them into every position and worry that she's better in bed than I was. I always agonize over whether he still loves me, or if we'll ever get back together. I wonder about him so much that I can't even sleep anymore. My girlfriends are tired of hearing it, so I'm all alone with this problem. If you could just tell me how to get over someone-how to stop thinking about someone-maybe that would help.
Not over him Nat
Sounds like someone has too much free time on their hands. Get busy, get your life back. In other words, get a life. You can't make someone love you or come back. If it's meant for you two to reconcile, it'll happen, but sitting around sweating him will not change anything, it's simply a waste of your time. Before my grandmother, Dot senior, died, she told me, "If you have one foot in the past and one in the future, your legs will be wide apart-shitting all over today." Stressing over what was or what will be is ruining your present life, and that's all we have. So cheer up! This isn't a rehearsal; it's the real deal.